After a series of ‘unconnected events’ that have had a pretty negative impact on her self esteem and sense of self worth, seventeen year old Stella Wilde begins blocking the world out and retreating into herself rather than dealing with her emotions. Her mum is a new therapy convert and encourages Stella to seek professional help, which leads Stella to meet Isaac Calder outside her new therapist’s office. With Isaac, Stella starts to come out of her shell, caught off guard by him and his little sister Paris who both take a genuine interest in her, which is something Stella hasn’t felt in a long time. As Stella and Isaac begin to get closer, their relationship moves away from a friendship and into something more. The problem is, Isaac is dating Stella’s perfect, kind, caring schoolmate Grace Reyes. When Isaac is unexpectedly killed in a car crash, Stella and Grace both have to navigate the world without him, somehow finding comfort and friendship in an unlikely situation. But how long can Stella’s secret stay hidden? What will happen when the truth comes out?
Initially, Completely Normal (and Other Lies) reads a
bit like a YA romance with some mental health themes. It’s pretty clear that
Stella is pretending not to be upset about recent events in her life, but that
she is actually struggling and is attempting to fix the way she’s feeling by
completely ignoring all of her problems. The novel is divided into two parts,
the first being ‘Stella and Isaac’, the second being ‘Stella and Grace’. In
Part One, we come to understand why Stella has been experiencing some anxiety
and anger. While Stella feels she’s making great progress as a result of
meeting Isaac and being able to finally open up and be herself around another
person, she’s still experiencing a lot of confusion. Her relationship has some
unhealthy aspects and as a result, while it makes her happy, she doesn’t
actually seem to be growing as a person. Her attitudes towards others are
skewed and judgemental. We often see her assigning values and judgements to her
peers that aren’t likely to be accurate. Much of this is from the influence of
her ‘friends’ who just aren’t a particularly nice bunch.
Part Two of the novel shows Stella dealing with Isaac’s
death but in the aftermath, she actually starts finding healthier ways to cope.
There’s a clear shift in her attitude both around herself, but also around
others.
This award winning novel is a standout exploration of mental
health, loss, grief, relationships (both platonic and romantic), emotional
connections and finding happiness and acceptance from within. It also shows a
lead female character’s outward anger and aggression, which isn’t something
that we often see in novels. While the book obviously doesn’t condone this
behaviour, it does show that it’s ok to have those feelings and that finding
other ways to express anger that don’t involve aggression is possible.
Stella is an incredibly complex, messy and human character.
Biffy James, the author, writes her so well that she’s somewhat abrasive at
first in her harsh judgements of everyone else. She looks at others as if
everything they do is an act and that no one does anything without thinking
about how others will perceive it. We come to learn that this is due to
Stella’s friends who have frightened her into being a completely different
person than who she actually is for fear of rejection and humiliation. This,
coupled with her feeling that her emotional responses are never ok regardless
of what form they take is part of why she’s struggling so much mentally at the
start of the book. It’s an insight into the lies we tell ourselves and others,
the influence others can have on us and what it truly means to be ‘normal’.
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